3 TIPS TO BOOST YOUR SEXUAL CONFIDENCE
Sexual confidence is not about being "good" in bed, it doesn't come from having a lot of sex and it's not about having ripped abs or big boobs - a "good" body doesn't look a certain way, it helps you move around through the world, therefore it's a good body. While it can mean different things to different people, at its core sexual confidence is feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy.
GET TO KNOW YOUR BODY AND WHAT YOU LIKE
Find out what you're drawn to and what you're into through connecting with different sources, for example you can try different masturbation styles with different toys and notice how your body responds, it's important to be curious about what's going on in your body and in your sexual experiences, even with yourself. When you come from a place of non-judgmental curiosity, you give yourself the opportunity to enjoy, feel satisfied and confident in diverse experiences.
The more you know about what turns you on and helps you experience pleasure and orgasm, the better.
LEARN HOW TO COMMUNICATE
As people develop different lusts and fetishes, communication means you can talk about your fantasies. But we know how it can be hard to communicate our desires because it feels like it makes you vulnerable: that’s a good way to repress yourself.
Communication is important to improve your sexual confidence and that kind of exploration helps you understand your fantasies better, and makes them less fearful and more real.
Also, it's essential to understand that communication isn’t a one-time deal, it's a continuous process, a constant conversation, that neither begins under the sheets nor ends after the last sweating quiver. Communication with your partner should happen before, during, and after sex - speaking up improves your chances of getting what you want from your sexual relationship which is sure to boost your self-confidence.
FOCUS ON PLEASURE
And not performance! We tend to feel anxious about things like our attractiveness; our size, shape and weight; and how well we will perform during sex. This mindset keeps us caught up in our heads and disconnected from our bodies, pleasure, lovers and the process of lovemaking...
Instead, you should focus on your body sensations: breathe deeply and slow down if needed, pay attention to how things feel as opposed to how perfect you appear to be.
And so you know, a partner who use all his senses, touch and focus on pleasure comes off as a lot more empowered and confident than someone who is insecure about their performance.