HOW TO INTRODUCE SEX TOYS TO THE BEDROOM?
According to Emily Morse, doctor of human sexuality “Sex is like an ice cream sundae: It’s delicious and you love it on it’s own but once you start playing with different layers, toppings, and flavours, you can enjoy the sundae in all sorts of new ways. Adding sex toys is all that, plus a cherry on top! As long as you let him know how much you love his hot sex sundae, he will warm up to the extra toppings in no time.” - We couldn't explain it better! But we also know that getting your partner involved can be a bit tricky... There is few tips to help you to introduce sex toys in the bedroom.
CREATE AN OPEN SEX COMMUNICATION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
It is essential to have regular conversations about sex and this out of the bedroom because it will increase intimacy and provide the opportunity for each of you to better understand what is most enjoyable for you sexually. Obviously, it has to be a safe place that you create together, completely non-judgemental and open minded.
For tackle the subject, a question is always a good start - for example: “How would you feel about exploring sex toys together?”
Communicate how you think it will be good for both your pleasure and your relationship, toys are there to enhance sensation in bed with him and not instead of him.
REASSURE YOUR PARTNER
If you want to help guide your partner reach sex toy enlightenment, it’s going to take a bit of reassurance, and a lot of education: asking to bring in outside help can make your partner feel uncertain of themselves chops but that should not stop you.
It is important to be able to communicate why you would like to introduce a sex toy in the bedroom while letting him know that he is an excellent lover, and don’t be afraid to give him specific examples of how much he turns you on.
Explain that is not a sign of boredom and you think they’ll be a pleasurable addition for him too - a toy will add more fun and reach a new level of intimacy.
BE SPECIFIC ABOUT WHICH TOY TO TRY
Ensure that you’re on the same page about what type of toy you want to try together! To make that choice we recommend you to spend some time together shopping for sex toys, this can be an extremely erotic activity for two. Take your time watching, discussing and selecting the toys you want to use, let the conversation flow and your imaginations run wild, visualising all the possibilities...
Tip: when you get the toy, spend some time getting to know it before bringing it to bed, how do you turn it on and off, how do you increase or decrease the intensity, how many vibration patterns are there... These are all questions you should be able to answer before you go to use it for real.
TALK ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE AFTERWARD
As we said at the beginning, it is essential to have an open sex communication with your partner and this concern also the after experience, especially when it is about something new you have tried: chatting about the toy, reflecting on what went well, what may need some work or support... will make it even more delicious next time.