ANAL SEX FOR BEGGINERS

ANAL SEX FOR BEGGINERS

If you're here, we guess that you're considering having anal sex for the first time and you're probably wondering how to do anal: how do you prepare, relax, and make this moment pleasurable with your partner? It's a question that's becoming more common - the latest research from the Kinsey Institute shows that 45% young women than ever are exploring anal play!

There is our top anal sex tips to take the stress out of first-time anal sex.

RELAX YOUR MIND AND YOUR BODY

When it comes to relaxing for anal sex, it is just as much about the state of your mind as it is about the physical ability of your body. Regardless of what kind of physical activity you are doing, proper breathing techniques are always beneficial to help keep your mind and body functioning in unity - the last thing you want to be before attempting anal penetration is tense.

To prepare for anal sex you can focus on specifically relaxing your the muscles of your anal sphincter - to see what that feels like, tighten your butt muscles and then release.

Tip: relax the muscles with heat and massage, applying the warmth and massage from a wet towel, sponge, fingers, toys or tongue for 10 or more minutes is an excellent relaxant. 

 

START SLOW

There are certain things we’re advised to approach with caution - anal sex is one of them. Not all surprises are good ones, so if you’re thinking of taking it up the butt, ask your partner to go slow. A little warmup can go a long way. Fingers and toys (as butt plugs or anal beads for example) can be especially useful in preparing the area for full penetration, but always with a good lubrification!

ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

Throughout the experience, it is your job to pay attention to what you are feeling, and communicate this to your partner. If something feels uncomfortable or painful, don't hesitate to let them know.

First-time anal play will be full of new sensations - some weird, some amazing but what you shouldn't feel is pain so make sure that you're enough comfortable with the idea of telling your partner to slow down, to pull out slowly or to completely stop moving.

Also, for first-time anal sex, we recommend that you should be the one to control the depth and speed of penetration - an optimal position to allow you to do that is you on top, which gives you full control of just how fast and deep you go.

Make sure to ask for his feedback too. As you both figure out what went wrong and what went right, you can both change things up so that it becomes more and more pleasurable over time.

Tip: establish a safe word to let your partner know you're not comfortable moving forward or that you want to move a little slower. 

USE A LOT, A LOT! OF LUBRIFICATION

The lube is the KEY to a successful anal sex - unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubricant so remember, the more lube you use, the more comfortable and enjoyable anal sex will be. Don't forget to make sure you are using a condom-safe, water or silicone-based lubricant and don't be afraid to reapply frequently.

FOR VULVA HOLDERS, DON'T FORGET THE CLIT

During anal sex, your clit is not going to be stimulated as it’s almost impossible for your partner to maneuverer his body into a position that stimulates it so don't hesitate to use your own hands or a vibrator 😉


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